Oneupmanship: you think YOU have pain?

I wholeheartedly agree! My own practice is to listen, or read where social media is concerned, and offer validation. I’ll talk about my own situation if asked for specifics, or when I am “venting”. This “one-upmanship” has long been a pet peeve and will typically cause me to feel less empathy for the interrupter and more contempt. This post on the My Heart Sisters blog is excellent, as is usual. Thank you Carolyn!

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by Carolyn Thomas    @HeartSisters

Have you ever been in the middle of telling somebody something important to you, only to be interrupted because what you’ve just said has reminded them of their own (far more fascinating!) story that clearly outshines yours? It’s a scene-stealing moment of oneupmanship. Or as author Stephen Coveyonce lamented:

“Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply.”

Oneupmanship is perhaps most memorably represented in the iconic Monty PythonFour Yorkshiremen skit (pictured above) in which the lads sit around and argue about which one of them had endured the worst poverty in childhood. “A house? You were lucky to live in a house! We lived in one room, all 26 of us!”

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